IS CHEATING A DEAL BREAKER FOR YOU

   by:Adanna Atuonwu
 
  I would scream hell to the yessssss knowing that I would have a lot of people agreeing with me on that but not anymore. 

Few months ago, I was having a conversation with a friend on this topic and she said if her boyfriend cheats on her that it is not enough reason to call it quits especially if it’s just emotional cheating. You can’t even imagine the disbelief on my face as she went on and on about the different ways he may cheat and it would be a deal breaker. It made me realise that this cheating game has gone further than we even imagine and there are some forms of it that is bearable and then some others are not.

         It makes me even second guess this relationship struggle, until my heart can maybe find the forms of this act that it can bear, because if anything what she said made me realise that cheating like most things concerning human behaviour is complicated.

         Let me put it out here, every single person has the tendency to cheat in some form or another (I know people will come for me for this)

         First of all, what is cheating? There is no perfect definition anymore because what you would take as cheating is not what another would take as cheating. It is therefore important you discuss with your partner what would define cheating for you guys, then cheating would then be betrayal of the expectations you have of your partner.
 

Let’s go back to everyone having the tendency to cheat in some form or another, cheating now has different forms from physical to emotional to cyber cheating (LOL!) Why do you think it’s only recently that emotional intimacy with another person be classified as cheating? This is because the world is evolving and people are getting sentimental about things they wouldn’t normally care about. Little things now count as cheating.

            A lot of scenarios have come up and people argue whether that is cheating or not, so lets look at some of them and we can decide which of them can be termed cheating and which can you or can you not bear. Here goes;

1) If your bae is sexting someone all through the night.

2) If your bae tries to look hot for someone ther than you (by that I mean your girlfriend picking out matching  undies just to look hot or your boyfriend now being cautious of how he looks.

3) If your bae keeps secret the amount of time he/she spends on this other person.

4) If your bae sleeps in the same bed with someone he/she was interested in and nothing happens.

5) When your bae buys intimate gifts for someone other than you.

6) When your boo’s best friend is of the opposite gender.

7) If your bae is still texting his or her ex.

8) When your bae during sex or something passionate, calls out or whispers the name of another person
 

9) When this baby of yours lies about what he/she is doing behind your back

10)Do you consider your bae just bossing another person cheating?

Which do you agree to be a deal breaker for you? Which of these forms will you term cheating and I would love to hear your opinions on this…….will any form of cheating be a deal breaker for you or you are part of my crowd that cheating is cheating after all a sin is a sin no matter how big or small it is.