Dear Adolescent Girl,

I have always felt it was impractical to expect young ladies not to date. So I will not be telling you that today.

First, because I’ll probably be wasting my saliva. Peer pressure and social norms gotten from your high school movies will make sure of that.

Second because, I believe dating is not completely without advantages. Dating can be a time to learn what you want and do not want in a permanent future relationship, before the desire to find a husband and social pressure to marry make being objective a little harder.

It could be a time to realise that not everyone is like your family. It could also be a time to figure out how to be a relevant and valuable part of a couple.

What I will be telling you today however, is that you should not be having sex. Yes, I said it! DON'T do it. The movies lied sweetie, not everyone is doing it.

With teenage sex, there are just too many pitfalls lurking around waiting for you to fall into them. First is the issue of protection. While all the movies show you the adolescent couple who decided to ‘do it’ on prom night, it ruins the moment to show the boy using a condom or to mention that the young lady is on birth control, so they don’t.

What you have is two young, deliriously happy looking people who cement their young love by having sex; music playing in the background, all their friends are jealous and the movie ends with both of them smiling into eachother’s faces.

 What you have in real life is a sixteen year old agonising over whether she should tell her parents she is pregnant or secretly get an abortion, it’s millions of young people across Africa currently on anti-retroviral drugs, its emotional damage when the story does not end with you smiling into his eyes but with rumours that he ‘did it’ with another girl. So wait.

If he does not want to wait, don’t worry. There will be another boyfriend, probably cuter and more mature.

Give yourself time because believe it or not you are still a child. Don’t be in a hurry to grow up. Seriously, it ain’t that fun.

The time will come and when it does you’ll be ready. For now, smile confidently and just say NO.

It's always good to plan your life,I mean I plan so much that if my plan doesn't work I make another. I have written down my plans countless times that I have lost track,but there's something writing it down does for me or rather to me,it keeps me in check. So anytime I think I am going off track, I grab a pen and a book and I start writing down how my life is supposed to look like in some years time and things I plan to achieve. And after I make these plans,I ask myself ''Is this what God really wants,these plans of mine are they in accordance with my his own plans for me?'' and this brings me to ''PURPOSE''.

There was something we were taught in church some Sundays back, I learned that most of us are fulfilling our ''mind purpose'' and not ''God's purpose''. Okay let me break it down, in church, we were shown a video and in this video were three different people from different works of life; an accountant, a pastor and a housewife.

On judgement day, God called the accountant and said ''Pastor Mike where are the 300,000 (three hundred thousand) souls you were supposed to bring to my kingdom?'' and the accountant was surprised and said ''I am not a pastor I am an accountant and I have helped the church to raise so many funds'' and God said ''I didn't send you to be an accountant, I sent you to be a pastor and win souls for my kingdom'' and the light went off on Mike.

Then the next up for judgement was the pastor and he came before God with all confidence that he had done a lot and God said ''Accountant Shawn, where are the ten million souls you were supposed to bring to my kingdom by helping the church with their finances?'' and Shawn replied ''Accountant Shawn? but I am a pastor and I have more than seven hundred members who come to worship you'' and God said ''I had no business with you being a pastor'' and the light went off on Shawn..

And the housewife walked up to God shivering with fear and God said ''Sister June, what did you do with the years I gave you on earth?'' and she was shivering with fear and amidst tears said '' I have been taking care of my son and raising him up in your ways and instructions'' and God said ''I am proud of you cause your son will raise thirty million souls for my kingdom,you have done well my child.'' And the light didn't go off on her. 

So many of us are fulfilling what we think pleases us and think will make us happy, what if for example God calls Innocent Idibia also known as Tuface and says ''Doctor Innocent,where are the souls you were supposed to bring to my kingdom by saving lives and those lives winning more souls.''

Have you ever wondered why someone will just wake up and from music move into writing, trust me everyone can write but not everyone is a good writer and you see that person doing better in that field than the former. It's because when you finally realise your purpose, God will equip you with all the things you need to achieve it . Why most upcoming musicians, actors, pastors and what not are still upcoming? I guess you can  answer that now. 

Immediately you realise what your purpose is,life automatically becomes easier and that which you need to achieve it are all set in place;the people, the finances, the equipment.

Purpose is broken down into six fields:

FAMILY

EDUCATION

GOVERNMENT

ENTERTAINMENT

AGRICULTURE

RELIGION

So,how it works is you realise out of these six fields, the field that is your God purpose, then when you achieve that which God wants,all the other fields will be easier for you to go into, lets look at Pastor Adeboye for example he found his purpose which is in the Religious field and now he is one of the most influential pastors,now by fulfilling his main purpose God then made it easier for him  to go into the Educational field and we can't deny that he also has a say in the Governance of the country. Now that's what happens when you fulfil that which you were sent for.

Let us not mix up talent and purpose, both  are good but one is there to help the other.

Ask yourself these questions:

1) What was I sent here for?

2) Why is God still keeping me alive?

3) What is my purpose here on earth?

4) Is my talent in accordance with my purpose?

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